Sacred Self-Pleasure Practice

First of all, beware that Life will treat you exactly the way you treat yourself. If you tense up during your pleasure practice, life will be tense. If you rush your practice, life will be rushed. This is also deeply connected to the type of sexual experiences that you will have with others. You do not attract what you want, you attract what you ARE.

Here is some guidance for you to dive into your own pleasure:

  1. Prepare your space and bring your 5 senses alive:

  • place candles or some nice lighting

  • light up incense, use fragrant oils, flowers…

  • have a nice tea. fruit. chocolate, or anything that will indulge yourself

  • have a nice blanket, linen or fur to lay down on

  • play sensual music connected to the journey you are keen to enter (sensual, relaxing, savage, romantic, firey…)

2. Make this a full-body experience bringing every part of your body alive. This will not only increase significantly the levels of kundalini energy in your system but will also give you a much stronger orgasmic experience. Touch your whole body in different ways, and maybe have some nice accessories to explore different sensations (feathers, roses, fur, chains, ice, candles…)

3. Be present with your body sensations. This means checking if you are not letting your mind go to fantasies or your daily tasks, not truly experiencing the present moment. Make it intentional rather than mechanical…

4. Slow Down! Build up your turn-on, enjoy yourself, and discover new unexplored erogenous zones in your body. Explore all that is available to you! Make it experimental rather than goal-orientated.

5. Touch your Lingam/Yoni in new ways. This means exploring new strokes, areas around your groins, external and internal labia, scrotum, perineum… Try different intensities and pressures. See your body as the subject, not the object.

6. Practice self-love. Embrace yourself and all that might emerge during this practice (shame, fear, fantasies, trauma…). Allow all emotions to be and flow.

7. Play with edging, get close to your orgasm and step back. Build up more energy.

8. If you decide to reach orgasms with love and gratitude for your body, this sacred vessel that houses our soul and allows us to have a human experience.

9. For lingam owners, I suggest the practice of semen retention to be incorporated into your pleasure practice. This means following all the previous steps without ejaculation. This can bring you an immense array of benefits! If you are interested in how to start this practice please reach out, and we can talk about the benefits involved and also some safety instructions.